How To Date Smart For Lasting Love. By Rori Raye Author of best-selling eBook ' Have The Relationship You Want' and free newsletter. June 4, The best. If you're feeling overwhelmed with dating, it might be time to step back, pause, and regroup. Learn to date with purpose and embrace the dating life again. Most of us are looking for a mixture of fun and commitment, but it's important to know where you stand so that you can figure out if your date is on the same page.